I said it! And boy, does that feel good!
I've been caught up in the life begins at the end of your comfort zone concept for years! However, it's always left me with a bit of a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach and it wasn't until very recently that I began to understand why.
I'm a highly emotional, super-sensitive soul. I feel things before there is any cognitive recognition of what's happening. I'm extremely intuitive, an empath and am very perceptive to energies. Being this way has lead to a great deal of confusion in my life and if I'm completely honest, I've had a bit of a love/hate relationship with it. I realise now that this has been because I've never really understood myself and that lack of understanding and personal empathy has lead to a relationship based on extreme judgment.
Acknowledging who I truly am and more importantly, taking ownership of these qualities have made me realise that the language I use and take on board really does have a very real impact on me. When I hear a phrase like "life begins at the end of your comfort zone" what I am actually hearing and FEELING is that until I step outside of where I am comfortable, I'm not really living and my life does not really have meaning. Really??... is it any wonder it makes me feel sick. It completely buys into my NOT ENOUGH as I am and also the challenges that I have with love being CONDITIONAL!
My comfort zone provides me with safety, it's what I know and can trust and it's where I am able to be my most authentic. It allows me to be vulnerable and to use the gifts and talents that I have to provide a service to the world. When I completely step outside of this zone, I actually have a very physical and emotional response and I actually go into a state of fear and overwhelm where I literally become quite frozen.
So what does this actually mean? Well, because I am one of these highly sensitive folk, all it actually means is that I need to adjust the language I use to SUPPORT me rather than have it work against me. Instead of working OUTSIDE of my comfort zone, I will STRETCH and EXTEND the boundaries of it to get things done. A subtle yet extremely powerful distinction and one that has allowed me personally to grow and put myself out into the world rather than curl up into a ball because I feel unsafe!
We are all so very different, so uniquely remarkable in our own way. There is no right or wrong on the big scale of how we do this life but rather, only a what works for or against us PERSONALLY. For some of you reading this, stepping outside of your comfort zone will motivate you no end and see you fly! For others, like me, it will have the opposite effect.
Knowing YOURSELF, deepening your own personal relationship, knowing what aids you and what hinders you is the ultimate in personal power to create a life that supports you in every way possible. And after all, isn't that what we all really want?
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